When the feelings aren't mutual

Battle of the most beautiful, most powerful, of the richest, of the most famous, of the most intelligent.—This is the world: pageants, quiz bees, competitions: not my belief but what I observed. Most of the time, people base their lives on these factors. As a result, many young people or even the old ones, become frustrated when they do not possess any of these because these have become the basis to like or to love. The result? Breaking of hearts for the people who try to be someone they are not just to please someone they like. But, it does not make sense.

 The harder you try, the more he (I speak as a “she”) cannot notice you. The world has lost the true meaning and value of love. For you, what is love? The dictionary says that it is just a passionate feeling; lust. Do you believe? Let’s look at what the bible says:

                                I Corinthians 13:4-8a

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.

Analyzing the verse, love does not talk of feelings. It’s an action word, a verb. Love isn’t feeling good when you’re with your special someone. If we focus on the feelings alone, maybe in a few months or in a few years, when the feelings are gone, we will conclude that we haven’t love. Feelings are very inconsistent, sometimes you’re on the peak of happiness and sometimes on the deep well of loneliness which according to psychologists really occur in nature like a sine wave ^[1] in which I believe why Jeremiah 17:9 says:

                                                “The heart is deceitful above all things and is beyond cure. Who can understand it?”

As young adults, it is very important that we are aware of this thing: LOVELIFE. It is something that really is a part of our lives.

Are you looking for someone? Does he love you back? Are you sure? Check your heart. Sometimes we assume, just because someone is kind to us. But this is not the basis. An unripened fruit tastes bad but the ripened one with right watering and caring is sweet. My point is, do not rush things so that in the future, we’ll not regret because we were able to make the right things.

                                Song of songs 8:4

                                                Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

Fame, appearance, power, intelligence: are these your bases in loving? Then you’re not really loving. The disadvantages of being famous, beautiful, powerful, and being intelligent is that people love and admire them in what their eyes see. And if these would be our bases, then we’re just showing that the world is just for the great. So how about the bourgeois? Did they lose their right of being loved just because they are not someone the world wants them to be?

Love God, love your friends, love yourself. Do not frustrate yourself in the things you’re not. Love what God has given you and use it for His glory. When we learn to accept who we really are, then that would be the time we’ll be ready to have a real “LOVELIFE” (as many call it) which is unconditional, no worldly bases, and which is giving, giving, giving, and taking.

Love like you’re never hurt. Sing aloud like no one hears you. Do not fear to LOVE, LOVE, LOVE.

-gel c”,)-